Saturday, December 28, 2013

What's the Secret?

Eight months ago I made a pretty dramatic career change. I went from a fulltime job to a stay at home wife and mom. The change within a couple weeks before welcoming home a new baby.

I felt a bit overwhelmed, excited, nervous, happy and afraid.  Part of me had thoughts like, this is going to be great!

  • I will have a schedule and be able to keep up on the house by doing a room a day and a load or two of laundry.  Freeing up lots of time to cook, visit, and not be catching up on two weeks worth of laundry, bedding, and outdoor gear on a Saturday.
  • I will have patience and want to do all sorts of activities with the kiddos because I won't be tired from work when I get home.  There will be more to family life than drop off/pickup kids from daycare, make supper, give baths, send too bed.
  • We can help the Hubby on the farm more. I can go on parts runs and be more involved with the outdoor lifestyle we want for our family.
Then part of me thought....hold on princess. It will take a magical transformation for you to be scheduled, organized, and willing to take on extra. Do you even remember what it was like living with a newborn?  Getting up every 2 hrs to nurse? The baby is due in the middle of calving, which is shortly followed by planting season...which if anything like the past year carries right in into branding and harvest and the shipping and planting winter wheat. 

If you were feeling overwhelmed with 2 kids what makes you think you will inherit the patience of Mother Theresa after giving birth to the 3rd? Has anyone ever mentioned how patient and calm you are under all circumstances? No...hmmm....and you are expecting this to change how?

Well prayer, wishful thinking....hoping the boys are getting old enough for partial days with dad. Getting together with other friends with kids the same age....finishing the gates on the fence so I can kick them outside?

Ok mostly pie in the sky dreams and prayers for the unattainable hallmark movie of a vision in my head.   Oh and lots and lots of coffee....and openness to advice from seasoned moms.

My transition happened the end of February and is now November. 

I don't have a schedule, my baby is crawling but not sleeping. My oldest has preschool 3 times a week for a few hours and we go to church on Sunday.  That is as much of a schedule as I have. 

Do you have any advice for me?
Do you have a schedule to keep somewhat on top of things?
Daily/Weekly routines?